The least understood

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I always think that introvert individuals are the most misunderstood—or at least, the least understood. I do get the impression that sometimes people see introverts as strange, against the norm, or even anti-social.

That can never be farther from the truth.

Many assume that people just need to be with others at all times, reluctance of which equals to reluctance to socialize or bond. They are expected to engage more socially, in schools, universities, or offices. They are expected to join any event together. They are expected to join social lunches or dinners often.

When introverts go alone, many may look it without cringing at first—only to think differently a few minutes later.

What is often not realized is how the introverts see the world, and see him/herself. I think it needs to be understood that introverts are not anti-social: They are social creatures, as much as you and me, and they like to have friends.

However, it is particularly exhausting to engage with a lot of people at most times. And what is difficult to be understood by others is that introverts recharge themselves by going alone. If you are into classes from morning to afternoon, having a lunch alone can help introverts to calm themselves, and recharge or refresh themselves, to again face the noisy and busy life afterwards.

What is also unnoticed at most times is that serious introverts are deduced of being indecisive, or slow at making decisions. One should recognize that introverts are better observers than fast-movers. People expect you to find instant solution every time you encounter a problem, and perhaps troubleshooting as you go. Observant introverts won’t do that. They will instead take a breath, pay attention and see the real nature of the problem, consider the options, and then take decisions. Indecisiveness is not a trait of introverts. Slow, maybe. But they are effective decision makers in their own right.

Their observant trait also allows them to find different solutions that fast-movers often do not see. Looking at the minute details, observant introverts can see the loopholes, the niches to exploit, and after see the options, then make the move.  They are considerably creative in their own right.

They are often socially-awkward, and may not be comfortable when facing many people—especially those barely known or acquainted with. In a world where people are expected to market, sell, or promote something by communicating with prowess, the introverts may find themselves considered unuseful for many parts of the job. It, again, forgets that even the best extrovert marketers need introvert observers and problem-solvers, to discover what is best to offer, or solutions to be offered. They often ‘read between the lines’, see what the fast-readers cannot see.

As I try to understand the introverts myself, I encourage others to try to understand introverts also. They are not difficult to understand—as fast as we realize that the world is not a mounding machine. Life is not a set of mound imposed to us all, that everyone must look the same, see the same, feel the same, be the same. Forgetting that differences create varieties, and varieties create a better world, for they complete us all. You don’t watch introverts with the extroverts’ glasses. They may be different, but they are not that different so much that people should think them as peculiar.

The world is beautiful with extroverts and introverts alike.

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